{"id":1504,"date":"2018-05-01T10:03:35","date_gmt":"2018-05-01T08:03:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/chi-statt-botox.com\/?p=1504"},"modified":"2026-09-02T14:44:09","modified_gmt":"2026-09-02T12:44:09","slug":"von-der-kunst-eine-entspannte-frau-zu-sein","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/chi-statt-botox.com\/en\/von-der-kunst-eine-entspannte-frau-zu-sein\/","title":{"rendered":"The art of being a relaxed woman"},"content":{"rendered":"

There are two words that can thoroughly spoil one\u2019s enjoyment of life. Whatever follows them is rarely anything pleasant. They are like weeds \u2013 no sooner have you pulled them up than they\u2019re growing back again. The words are: \u201eI should\u201c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The mental weeds of expectations<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I recently planted a whole bunch of seedlings in the garden. A gardener\u2019s joy lies in watching the delicate little plants grow. But weeds disrupt this idyll; they grow faster and more vigorously. It\u2019s the same with those sentences that begin with \u201eI should\u201c. Sometimes I get the feeling they were invented especially for us women. We\u2019re supposed to do so many things, do them as well as possible, and look good whilst doing them too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The last few weeks have been demanding. As a mother of two and a sole trader, I try to do my best on all fronts. That\u2019s not unusual, but it\u2019s terribly exhausting. The other day, whilst out for a walk in the woods with my husband, I felt lighter with every step \u2013 until that mental weed broke through the blood-brain barrier: \u201eI still need to reply to those emails.\u201c<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The never-ending cycle of \u201eshould\u201c<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

No sooner had I banished that thought than the next ones sprang to mind: putting the leftovers in the fridge, transferring the money for the school trip, bringing the washing in, finalising the book proposal, booking the dentist\u2019s appointment\u2026 My head was full of weeds in an instant. Gone was that tender little seed of relaxation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Have you ever noticed that it never really ends? No matter how much you get done, the next \u201eI should\u201c is already waiting in the wings. It\u2019s like the dragon in the fairy tale: cut off one head, and two more grow back. It\u2019s mad, because very few of these things are actually important. Those magical moments with loved ones, writing when the words just flow, laughing with friends \u2013 that\u2019s what really matters.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lessons from Africa: Living without artificial turmoil<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

As a child, I lived in Africa for a while, in the countryside, without clocks. My father was a development worker. None of the locals were stressed. They didn\u2019t understand this artificial restlessness that we\u2019d brought with us. They smiled and didn\u2019t let anything rattle them. And yet the world didn\u2019t come to an end.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The essential things in life are unspectacular: they are the present moment, the breath of a loved one, a smile. I am here. And at this very moment, I \u201eshould\u201c be nowhere else but right here.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Choosing life<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Every now and then, I want to choose life. I choose to be kind to myself. I only have human strength, not superpowers. People who are always kind to everyone are often hard on the most important person: themselves. Life is a buffet, but we can\u2019t stuff ourselves with everything. Every \u2018yes\u2019 is a \u2018no\u2019 to something else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The trees in the forest simply stand there. They breathe in and out, letting the life force pulse through them. They don\u2019t worry about tomorrow, nor do they dwell on yesterday. Perhaps it is precisely our brain that prevents us from being at peace with the present moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today I\u2019m just writing straight from the heart. Where everything is perfect, there\u2019s no room for vitality. With that in mind, I wish you a few carefree moments of happiness. Don\u2019t think so much that you forget to enjoy yourself. After all, the present moment is all you have.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The yin in a masculine world<\/a><\/div>\n\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n
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\u201eHappiness\u201c comes from gambling<\/a><\/div>\n\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n
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What matters more to partners than wrinkles<\/a><\/div>\n\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n
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