{"id":948,"date":"2017-10-24T08:07:35","date_gmt":"2017-10-24T06:07:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/chi-statt-botox.com\/?p=948"},"modified":"2026-09-02T14:44:06","modified_gmt":"2026-09-02T12:44:06","slug":"fuer-schlechten-sex-gibts-keinen-guten-grund","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/chi-statt-botox.com\/en\/fuer-schlechten-sex-gibts-keinen-guten-grund\/","title":{"rendered":"There's no good reason for bad sex"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Oooh, what thin ice! What is bad sex, what is good sex? Do I have good sex, or could it be better? What does she actually want to write about?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Well, I am concerned about statements made by some clients (in my psycho-kinesiological practice<\/a> is spoken openly and honestly), from which a picture emerges for me that I would like to think about out loud.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people today are busier than in the past, have more relationships and therefore more sexual partners, there are more opportunities for comparison. Whereas people used to lie next to the same person all their lives and could only guess how the others were doing it, today they bring more experience to the relationship. As a result, there are more and more courageous women asking for better sex. And unfortunately they are always fobbed off with the answer: \"All the other women were satisfied.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s the answer when your current partner tries to give the new man a bit of guidance on what she likes and what she wants. We\u2019re not talking about outlandish fantasies here, but about basics such as \u201egentler\u201c, \u201elonger foreplay\u201c and the like. If the man, feeling overwhelmed, says, \u201eNo one\u2019s ever complained to me before\u201c, that\u2019s a real problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The question remains: were the others satisfied or silent?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Women often \u201ehide\u201c from sex. They love their partner, but the circumstances do not allow for genuine desire. They go to lie with their child, stay up a bit longer on purpose, or send their partner away with the best of intentions, just to have some peace and quiet. Why? Because many women cannot express what they need. Our sex education is often technical or distorted by pornography, which only shows the male perspective. If a woman doesn\u2019t understand her own body, she can\u2019t communicate what it needs. She then quickly comes to believe that there is something wrong with her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s time to be honest. Men need to realise that good sex requires knowledge and sensitivity \u2013 a genuine understanding of the female anatomy and a sense of presence. A woman can tell exactly whether you\u2019re really \u201ethere\u201c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Love yourself first<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Good sex requires two people who feel comfortable in their own bodies. Sex is the art of being fully present and takes courage. Forget all that daft advice about sexy lingerie or candlelight if you\u2019re still feeling tense inside. What\u2019s the point of any of it if unspoken desires stand between you like a barrier? Truly exhilarating sex is about devotion, not technical perfection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Studies show that women whose partners help out around the house feel more in the mood. That makes sense \u2013 respect is the best form of foreplay. Have the courage to talk about your needs, as these change over time. Take the pressure off. Focus on enjoying yourself, not on chasing an orgasm. Good sex develops just like a good conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Silence creates distance. Don\u2019t be \u201eplain\u201c just to avoid offending the other person. Authenticity is the key to a vibrant relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Book recommendations & resources<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Listen to your instincts and steer clear of bad advice. Here are some books I can genuinely recommend:<\/p>\n\n\n\n