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Far too often we take things for granted and believe that's the way it is. That's how I felt years ago. I was almost 36, had frown lines and puffiness under my eyes. My face felt tired and heavy and it took me a while to feel really alert in the morning. I realised - I'm just getting older, that's the way it is. Especially when those around me felt the same way and some women already had a plan for what they were going to have "done" in the next few years.

But having something 'done' somehow goes against everything I stand for. I also thought at first that self-confident, strong women don't worry about their own appearance. What nonsense! Every woman should be allowed to have the look she feels comfortable with. Being self-confident is no reason to neglect your own body.

Getting older hurts.

What's more, getting older hurts. You look in the mirror and don't have the feeling that your body is dressing your soul appropriately. My soul didn't feel as old as the face smiling tiredly at me from the mirror. I felt disturbed in my general sense of well-being by this heaviness that was increasingly noticeable in my face. I wanted to know what was actually going on.

Of course, you can't stop ageing. That would be like trying to bring nature to a standstill. But I found 4 causes of ageing that you can do something about quickly and easily. And I was rewarded by seeing the vitality of my earlier years return to my face.

The frown lines disappeared and swelling? I don't know. I am now 42 years old and feel better than 7 years ago (in this snapshot I'm without make-up - and you know how snapshots from below can look with bad light...). I think ageing in this way is just great. Despite the signs of age on my body, my face has a natural tension, vibrancy and energy. Unnecessary wrinkles don't even appear.

Surprise: it's not (just) about the skin

It is a big mistake to make the skin solely responsible for our appearance. You can grease it with whatever you like, your wrinkles will still wave happily at you from the mirror. The body is a finely tuned organism in which everything interlocks like cogwheels. So here are the 4 causes of facial ageing, 4 things that remain completely unaffected by your face cream and below you can read how you can get to grips with them:

• The lymphatic system. How can the skin be smooth and even if the lymphatic fluid builds up underneath? The lymphatic system becomes sluggish over time. It moves even more slowly at night. That's why you look so puffy in the morning. If you don't do anything about it, these swellings become more pronounced.

• How can the skin be firm if the Muscles sagging underneath? The facial muscles are what give your face its shape. If a sculptor carves a sagging face in the stone, it doesn't matter how he treats the surface, it remains a sagging face. (Thank goodness the correction here is not as laborious as on the rest of the body...)

• Vessels. Over time, the blood vessels become less flexible and harder, they are no longer as effective, our skin is no longer supplied with nutrients as well and metabolic waste products are no longer removed as thoroughly. You can often see that facial skin in particular does not get enough oxygen and looks pale.

• Yes, you can't see them, that's true. But they do exist, otherwise methods such as reflex massages and acupuncture would not work. And Vietnamese women who treat their bodies via reflex points on the face would not look 20 years younger. The fact that the supply of Energy Nobody will deny that you need a regular kick as you get older.

So these are the 4 magic points. A beautiful face has energy and tension. In order to build this up, it needs oxygen, a good transport system (blood vessels, lymphatic system) to absorb nutrients and remove waste products, it needs muscles and energy. Our body can do all this at a young age without any help from us. And from a certain age, it needs support.

And that's actually quite easy.

Uff, you think at first. That's going to be a lot of work. But what I'm about to tell you is almost too good to be true - it will only cost you 10 minutes a day. 10 minutes a day to bring about profound changes in your face that will make you all the more happy the longer you stick with it. What will you look like in ten years' time if you haven't allowed the 4 points to age your face during this time?

I am someone who has too little patience for hours of massaging or regular visits to a beauty parlour. I've been looking for methods that are really effective. And I am very happy with what I have found.

I have learnt that with the Far Eastern Cockroaches and Cupping can do incredible things to your face, provided you do it right. In the beginning, I also imitated YouTube videos and had to learn that a good thing needs to be well learnt if I didn't want to ruin my skin. So I attended courses with people who had learnt this in China. I first had similar experiences with facial gymnastics, where I already had a finer feeling and immediately realised that some things could do more harm than good. Eventually I turned to the Facial yoga who simply works more sensitively and holistically, while the results are very satisfying. At this point, I actually thought I had everything I needed, I hadn't thought about energy. By chance, however, I then found another method that is extremely interesting and impressive, namely the Vietnamese Dien Chamwhich achieves incredible rejuvenating effects simply by working on the energy system.

Every woman should know that!

I started giving small courses. I was so impressed and excited, I realised, every woman should know that. I have written everything down in a book, in as much detail as I could, so that every woman can use it at home with a good feeling. I still give courses, but I keep getting emails from women who have to travel halfway across Europe to visit me. So I had the idea of organising the course in the form of a Video course to create. This way you have the videos forever and can practise and massage along with me. You have the good feeling that you're doing it right and it's motivating when you don't have to do it all by yourself.

I would like to invite you to learn the "Chi instead of Botox" methods. The course won't even cost you as much as a Botox injection, but the benefits are incomparably greater. You can do it at your own pace from the comfort of your own home. It often takes us women a little longer to realise that the most worthwhile investment is in ourselves. I love watching women who start to recognise themselves, turn towards themselves and take their needs seriously. Become one of us! Click here for the video course ->