Women in creative hormonal states - 3 suggestions

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This article is for women who realise that they have less and less patience with their surroundings. Women who suddenly no longer feel like being cute: for women in creative hormonal states, be it PMS, menopause or the slow slide into menopause. Because the difficulty that these conditions bring with them is this: We stop being low-maintenance.

Yes, everything can be explained logically. Hormonal changes, biochemistry, chemical processes. But aren't we a bit more than what we can grasp? What if these processes serve to allow women who are focussed on bonding and relationships to create some space for themselves?

H2 The World in a Nutshell

A woman’s emotional world is incredibly complex. Yet, for years, even decades, we manage to squeeze it into a tiny nutshell in order to be considerate of those around us. Whilst most men are quite capable of pursuing their life plans as a matter of course, for us, harmony in our surroundings is a key factor in our happiness. During a hormonal change, this nutshell bursts open and the emotions that pour out shake our little universe. Suddenly we become difficult.

Hormonal changes are one of nature’s wise designs. They send you into such a hormonal frenzy that you start creating space for yourself with little outbursts. Where has that kind, caring, self-sacrificing creature gone? Say goodbye to her and allow yourself to be a normal human being with the full range of emotions and needs. Are you difficult? What normal human being isn’t?

H2 OMG, I’m not cute!

Free yourself from the obligation to be easy to get on with. Don’t let anyone tell you that you’re difficult just because you’ve stopped being predictable. Welcome to emotional chaos. Emotions are a wonderful thing, even when they’re unsettling. They make you feel alive.

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Anger is an appropriate reaction for someone whose needs and boundaries are not respected. We are entitled to feel it. When we’re under hormonal pressure, we suddenly become aware of our boundaries. Have you ever, in that state, said something you’d been holding back for ages? Very good! Perhaps sometimes it’s better to be true and genuine rather than just trying to please.

H2 Three steps to finding your bearings

These three steps can help you find a sense of direction when something real and repressed is trying to rise to the surface from deep within:

H3 1. Give yourself the right to change

Even if you don’t get much understanding: this is about you now. You’re not obliged to stay the way others have got used to you being. Anyone who shies away from the risk of change is taking the greatest risk of all.

H3 2. Ask yourself: „Who could I be?“

Suppose you weren’t obliged to carry on with your old life – who could you be? Every person has countless qualities lying dormant within them. What is it that wants to come out of you right now?

H3 3. Accept your needs, even if you don’t understand them

At times like this, aspects of yourself that you’re not familiar with come to the fore. Perhaps they’re childlike needs that you feel ashamed of. Just don’t censor yourself: anything goes. What could you do to fulfil this need?

Treat yourself to this bit of mischief. You don’t always have to be a little doll. I wonder if our souls would feel less of a need to rebel if our willingness to be there for others were valued rather than taken for granted.

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But only maybe. What do I know? I'll be nice again and try to look as harmless as possible...