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Life gets better after 40, smart women know that. Others, on the other hand, are sceptical about this time and cling desperately to the old. Not everything was better in the past and youth in itself does not make you happy. Women only need to know one thing:
Your attitude has never been as important as it is now. Check your thoughts and beliefs about age and being a woman. What you think about yourself at this age will come true immediately. Because you will dress, style, behave and dare or not dare accordingly. You will invite into your life exactly what suits your beliefs.
From the age of 40 onwards, anything is possible, because you’ve never had the wealth of experience you have now. You’re a loaded gun. Unless, that is, you fall for the media’s simplistic obsession with youth. In which case, you’re probably just an insecure little wimp. And before you start holding back at this marvellous stage of life, let me give you 11 reasons why women over 40 have it better:
1. you know yourself and make better decisions.
Think back to your younger years. It was often like driving on the motorway without having passed your driving test. You didn’t know how to handle yourself very well, you were searching for direction, and you didn’t really know what made you tick, or what suited you and what didn’t. That’s all behind you now. You’ve had 40 years to get to know yourself and can make better decisions today. You know exactly what suits you and what’s best left to you in peace. You’ve worked out how you tick, you understand your emotional world and you know what your soul craves.
2. you are more generous with yourself.
You’ve spent long enough driving yourself round in circles over every single mistake, and you’ve realised that, firstly, it achieves nothing, and secondly, mistakes are rarely a big deal anyway. If no one’s noticed, you don’t go out of your way to point it out to others. Shit happens. Explain to the younger ones just how therapeutic a shrug can be.
3. you have understood that the others don't have a manual for life either.
No one has the instruction manual for your life. Not even you. Because there isn’t one. Your life is a notebook that you’ve already filled halfway, but the other half is still blank. It’s waiting for you to create something that makes sense to you. Not to your know-it-all friends.
4. your heart is a professional.
You’ve been training and stretching for decades. Nothing’s going to knock you down that easily. Drama is a thing of the past. Today, maturity is the order of the day. You know how to comfort yourself, you know the paths to healing, and you see crises as challenges. Being human means being vulnerable, but we now know that we always heal again.
5. your dignity is more important to you than the affection of others.
We are no longer immature princesses, but dignified queens. We trust our own judgement. When we embark on adventures, we do so for our own enjoyment. Once the heat of battle has passed, we put our crown back on, unscathed. Even mistakes can be made with dignity.
6. you no longer claim to be a jack-of-all-trades.
You are not responsible for other people’s expectations. You have the courage to disappoint others because you realise that their disappointment is based on unjustified expectations. At last, that liberating word, „No!“, rolls off your tongue. You have discovered your own space.
7. you are tired of false modesty.
When you’ve done something well, you can accept praise. You know your own worth. You can stand up straight and say, „I’m really good at this!“. You leave your self-doubt in the cloakroom. You subtly point out your qualities to others without feeling uncomfortable about it.
8. you manage your time better.
You know that your time isn’t endless. Time has become precious. You choose carefully who you give it to. You’re no longer prepared to waste it on nonsense or chatterboxes. That feels really good!
9 In bed, you know what you want and how to get it.
From the age of 40, you begin to appreciate all the subtleties, spices and refinements. You’re more willing to take the time to prepare a really good „meal“. It’s all about the experience. What’s the point if the cook is young but has no idea what’s on the spice rack?
10. you have learnt to trust your intuition.
Your intuition is a welcome friend. You know that your mind often just panics for no good reason. As a mature woman, nothing can replace your inner compass. You listen to your inner voice rather than to a thousand outside opinions.
11. you finally have time for yourself.
Freedom tastes twice as good now. You take yourself seriously and have a better understanding of who you are. As a mature woman, you’re finally coming into your own. You have wonderful years ahead of you, in which anything is possible.
